- Stop Caring About How You Look
Yes, we live in a society obsessed with beauty. There’s no two ways about it. We are raised to admire beautiful people. successful actors and models with dimpled grins, defined waists, and toned arses. As a result, we inherently associate our perceptions of attractiveness with success and happiness.
If we are to truly love ourselves, we mustn’t allow the way we look to define our personal value. It cant be our sole calling card for love, sex, or relationships. it can’t be what dictates our worthiness of joy or family or a promotion at work. Think about it, the people who know and love us the most really couldn’t care less about our weight, skin tone, or hairstyle.
If we really want love, the kind that lasts, we must first hold our pride in what we do, not how we look. We must hold itin our ability to write beautiful words, or paint striking paintings, or explore creatively that for which we are passionate. These are qualities a future date will remember. it won’t be the dress or the shoes or the shade of your lipstick . Trust me. It will be passion in your voice.
- Let Go
here’s the deal, we’ve all been hurt. we have all been let down. We’ve all had that someone who didn’t message back, or stood up on a date, or treated our hearts like monkey meat. We’ve all been left feeling exposed and vulnerable and weak, our trust abused and our egos bruised. We can’t resent these feelings, for that would be handing them more power than they deserve. That would be handing them our futures.
We need to forgive. We need to move on. We need to let go.
You’re an absolute 100% drop dead catch, so don’t you dare treat yourself otherwise. You might need to occasionally remind yourself, surprise, woo yourself. Bowl yourself over with your thoughtful ways.
- Win Yourself Over
I’m talking about buying your favorite tub of ice cream and hiding it in the back of the freezer, only to be rediscovered on a rainy day, when you know that you’ll need it most. Or grabbing yourself that bunch of flowers from the farmers market, and realizing that even though they are temporary, you deserve their color and beauty in your day.
You can’t rely on future lovers treating you to the specialties of life. Lovers are great, but they’re fundamentally uncertain in a way that your joy shouldn’t be. They’re not to be counted on for something as crucial as personal happiness. They can’t be the source. it has to come from you first.
- Don’t Compare Yourself
Lifes not a race. Loves not a race. Stop competing.
Yes, what’s her name might be in a long term relationship and kicking major goals at work, while you’re still single as hell and stuck in a minimum wage job. Who cares? Life has a funny way of evening out in the end, it just takes everyone a different amount of time. Chill.
Remember, she’s probably looking at your life and wishing she had the same level of independence and freedom. The grass is always greener. It’s important to enjoy your own pasture, safe in the knowledge that it’ll grow and thrive at its own place.